Have you ever had two similar expereriences that were almost the same but felt completely different?
Your favorite dish hits different when you are really in the mood for it.
There’s a song you don’t really like at first but once you hear it a third or fourth time you finally feel it.
You thought some idea was silly and then 5 years later it makes complete sense.
Some people just give you a vibe that makes you want to stay away, even if they say all the right things and look like someone you should get along with.
All things emit a frequency. You can look at it scientific, sporotually or metaphprically, this is true regardless.
Sounds have a frequency. Light has frequency. Emotions have a frequency. Each thought has it’s own unique frequency. A room, a table, a dish, a moment in your life, these all have frequencies or a complex relationship of many frequencies interacting with each other.
Everything is just waves bouncing off of each other, resonating in harmony or clashing with each other.
How conscious are you of the frequency of your words and thoughts and focus? How much do you think about whether all aspects of your life and any given moment are in harmony with each other?
How much do you realize your ability to nudge your thoughts or posture or facial expressions to be in harmony with your surroundings.
But if your mind and heart aren’t in harmony with your actions and words, the harmony will be built on a flimsy foundation, and so there is no meaning to cheating yourself. These are the puzzles we face every day. How do we create harmony with the things around us when our heart is not in it?
We can try and pressure or force others to adhere to our frequency, but then their hearts will not be in harmony.
The secret to being at harmony with the world is to be at harmony with yourself. If you all the frequencies that you produce are at harmony with each other, there is no reason to be at war with the world. We only expect the world to cater to our frequency because we don’t realize how much we can influence our own frequency.
We think the outside world is responsible for how we feel but nothing has more impact over our feelings, our thoughts and our beliefs than we do. Sure the world outside can push us this way ans rhat but we choose which direction to face.
We don’t have to pretend we are comfortable when we are not, but we can turn our focus to things that make us feel better, to the things we can change rather than the things we can’t.
I recently had a similar concersation with two different people. Both people agreed with most of what I had to say and had a lot in common with me, but one conversation left me feeling excited and energized and the other one drained.
You could say it’s because the enegy or frequency of the two people was very different, that would be true, but more importantly, I chose to let my own frequency be influenced by both of them to a rather high degree.
One person was joking about the situation and the other was oretty serious about it. I let their attitudes paint my own and so the feeling was incredibly different.
It’s fine to let people have some influence over your frequency or decide the frequency of a conversation if it serves you and moves you toward who you want to be. Sometimes others can pull you out of a funk or shake you up to realize something.
But if it takes you further away from how you want to feel in that moment and doesn’t serve a purpose (to illuminate some point, to help you heal etc.) it’s better to stay firm in your own frequency.
I want to create joy and playfulness whenever I can. This doesn’t mean I should have made light of every single things my friend said when she was talking about an issue that was serious for her. But it means finding an opening, a point in the conversations where I could make light of the topic where could willingly get onboard.
To try and force her onboard with me would have been a transgression against her, however small, it would not have been a move towards harmony. Maybe it would have required some patience on my end but I am sure there were moments where I could have helped the conversation take a lighter tone without changing the topic.
Rather than leaving the conversation and blaming her for being a downer, I’d like to be more aware of when I am playing other people’s. Because I’ve grown up being told logic and conversation are neccessary to create understanding, I tend to let myself get pulled into them.
But really in that moment, I don’t need to justify how I see the world through logic. I could simply keep my own vibe and it will naturally cause her to match mine if she is willing. If she is not willing, either she will feel compelled to leaved to avoid facing her own negativity, or (and I doubt she wouldndo this but some people might), she might try to force me to change my frame through saying something mean or starting some kind of drama, in which case, I’s have no problem leaving because I don’t need to waste my energy.
Usually you’ll find that if you don’t fight back but just keep your own vibe, it forces people to solve their own problems, which is good cause these are problems only they can fix for themselves.
How many people, when fighting with a loved one just say “I love you but im not having this conversation now”, and put their phone on silent or create some physical distance?
A few weeks ago I bought a bunch of tiny rubber ducks for a few pennies. I wasn’t sure why, it just felt like a fun thing to have, maybe to pull out randomly.
Now I wonder how our conversation would have gone if I had pulled out one of them and put it in her hand and said something kind, right at a pivot in our conversation before it could drift in an unwanted direction. I likely wouldn’t have even had to change the topic, the whole atmosphere would have been disrupted by that, and that’s a good thing when neither person feels at harmony with the mood the conversation is taking but still like each other and want to understand each other.
I need to remember this!
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